Transcript for Hustle & Heat Episode 19

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What’s up, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Hustle and Heat Podcast. My name is George, your host, and this is Episode 19.

For Episode 19, I’d like to welcome a special guest. This lady is a badass. Richer than I could ever imagine, more successful than most of you lazy people out there, and she’s out here taking names and kicking butt. Without further ado, I’d like to welcome Missy Tanguay. Missy, welcome to the podcast.

Yeah, I don’t think I’ve ever had an introduction like that.

That’s an introduction.

Yeah, it sure was. Thank you. Makes me feel aggressive.

Christian told me before we started, “I want to bleep some words out,” so I made sure I gave him the opportunity.

I know. I told him, I was like, that’s why I’m the right person for this job.

So, Missy, tell us a little bit about yourself and what you do.

I’ve been local to the area since 2011, and I own Hoover Pressure Cleaning. I’ve been around that business since 2012. I also own a marketing company, Foot in the Door. My husband and I just recently purchased a third business called Higher Level Supply, where we distribute a paver sealing product throughout Southwest Florida, basically from North Port to Marco Island.

Very nice.

Yeah.

So, you’ve been around pressure cleaning since 2012. Tell us about your story there. Do you want the love story or the growth story?

Whatever story you want out there.

Tell us your story.

Full circle. I started working for a girlfriend of mine I went to church with. She sold the business within about three months of me working there. She saw that I was going to be able to take over things and sold it to a combat veteran. I worked for him for five years. Then I left the company and went to work for a roofing company. Tony and Angie Omosi, who are local to the area and also have a business, sold us the company. They owned it for five years, but I was working for them.

Deco Products is the paver sealing product that we sell. I still also work for them to this day. I knew I had to hire somebody before I left Hoover. I just knew they were going to be intricate in my life in some way. Across my desk came Will’s mom’s resume. Will is my husband. I just knew that I had to hire her. Within two weeks, she was like, “Oh, I don’t talk about my personal life.” Then I heard her say her son’s name, and I just knew that I had to meet him. Here we are, almost nine years later, and we’re married and we own the businesses together.

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Very nice. Was Hoover your first business you owned?

No. I was a general contractor back in Maryland. It was more of a handyman business, but I had to have a GC license to run that business.

How’d that go?

Yeah, good. I mean, it was a good business. It was reputable. We had a lot of good clientele. It was right outside of a military base, so of course you’re in a very affluent area. I ran the business. My mom also started businesses when I was younger. She was an entrepreneur, so I was always around businesses. I started running her business at 12 years old. She had owned a candy store.

Candy store.

Yeah. Candy and coffee. She was way before her time. She would have knocked Starbucks out of the park. But yeah, it was super fun. It taught me a lot. It taught me a lot about what I wanted and what I didn’t want, and I was able to implement those things into my businesses.

So when you talk about what you wanted and what you didn’t want, obviously as kids we always aspire to be somebody when we grow up. What were your aspirations as a kid?

I wanted to be a chiropractor.

Are you serious?

I did not want to be an entrepreneur. Matter of fact, in my first marriage, he said, “Let’s start our own business.” I was like, “Absolutely not. I do not want to be an entrepreneur.” But I realized, not to pat myself on the back, but I’m really good at it. I’m really good at caring for people. I’m really good at caring for my customers. I feel like I’m very good at organizing my businesses in a way that makes sense and fits for us and for the people that we serve.

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Very nice. So once you became an entrepreneur, did you fall in love with it? Is it something that you really enjoy now or is it just something that you found out that you’re really good at and you continue to do?

I do love what I do. I love the changes that it brings every day. It’s not the same thing every day. I love that I have control of my time. I get to make different meetings and schedules and meet with different people. I love my community, so I love getting to know the people in the community, and that helps my business grow because once they find out who I am as a person, then they want to end up doing business with us.

So talk about your community work. I know you’re part of the Chamber, part of BNI, you’re part of North Port Leadership. What is it about the community that you really want to be a part of and participate in?

I love giving back. I love helping other people grow. I don’t get anything out of it other than to watch somebody be successful. I have a philosophy, whether it’s a Christian philosophy or not, but do unto others as you would have others do unto yourself, right? I’m under the mindset that you have to do for your brother what you would do for yourself, but you also have to give to your brother what you would give to yourself. So if I want success, I need to help other people be successful as well as making myself successful. I can’t just be centrally focused on me. I have to think about the people around me and the people that I can affect and how I can help them grow, and that’s really important to me.

That’s very nice. Is there anything else that you’re involved in?

I’m big on family. I just love my family. My sister’s in town this week. I was seeing my parents last week. They’re out of town. But I’m very close with my kids. It makes your heart melt when you look at your son. We’re all planning to move within the next couple of years. We’re going to go to Tennessee. I said, “Well, you’ll probably move before me. You can get up there and get things set up. You don’t really have anything holding you back. You’re young.” He’s not even 21 yet. I said, “Well, there’s really nothing keeping you here.” And he goes, “You.” And I was like, oh, that’s big. To know that you have that effect on the people that you really care about and love, and that you’ve invested your time and life into, it makes a big difference.

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Very nice. So, as a female, I know females now are becoming more and more successful than in prior years and past generations, and we’re looked at as equal, male and female, versus past generations. What can you tell current young females nowadays to become as successful as you? What kind of advice can you give them?

Oh, don’t be afraid to be yourself, really. I’m kind of a no-nonsense, very serious, foul-mouthed woman, and for a long time, and I’ve been in the construction industry since I can remember, so it was very easy to be me. But I’m a sponge at the same time. I absorb as much as I can absorb. Even though I’ve never worked a physical day of labor really in my life where it was a paid activity, I know how to regurgitate everything that people do in the field into my job and my businesses.

That has then translated into me being able to do my own plumbing and my own electric work, switching out fans or things of that nature. I don’t have any fear of doing it because I’ve heard and learned so much. Back then, there wasn’t YouTube. You didn’t have Google where you could just search things up and watch what to do. So to be insatiable for that knowledge was important to me, and I would suggest that whatever they love and they’re passionate about, then to follow that and be authentic.

It took me until I was in my 40s to really feel like I was not worried about people pleasing and I wasn’t worried about what everybody thought of me. I’ve dressed up my entire life, but I’m a complete tomboy. I will shovel dirt if I have to and I’ll be happy about it. Not that I want to, but I will. But I also like to care for myself and I like to feel girly because I know I’m a very masculine energy, where I’m just like, I’ve got to get this done, I’ve got to do this, I’ve got to take care of it.

I think that’s probably why I’ve done so well in a male-dominated industry. My husband is incredible. Physical labor, I don’t want to do all that. I’m not equal in that sense. I don’t want to carry that 50-pound load of whatever. I enjoy being a female where I can say, you know what, I love to cook, I love to cater to him, I love to be that kind of woman. And at the same time, I don’t mind if I have to do it, I will. But I don’t really want to have to.

I love that I have equal voting rights. I love that. But I don’t think that there’s so much equality where I have the same strength that he has to do the things that he can do, because there are things that I can do that he doesn’t do well. We are such a good fit because we’re balanced that way and we understand our roles in our relationship.

How did you come about those roles in your relationship?

Really, it was natural. Yeah, very natural. I always say this, and people might not understand unless they have that kind of relationship, but I love my husband, but I don’t need my husband. He knows I’m quite capable to do everything I can do without him. And vice versa, he does not need me. He will take on whatever challenge comes his way. But the value that we find in our relationship, the respect that we have for one another, is because we are there for each other, and that matters. That matters a lot, that we’re each other’s support system. We don’t lean heavily on each other in a way that’s unhealthy. If it’s balanced, like, “Hey, I can’t pick up the dog food tonight. Can you pick up the dog food tonight?” then yeah, absolutely. But he’s not the center of my world in that way where he doesn’t get to be himself and have that balance. Does that make any sense?

No, that makes sense.

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Do you feel like some people say that people in this generation have changed? Do you feel like we live in a generation with more motivated people, more people with excuses, or people who just don’t know where they want to go in life?

Honestly, I think everything is happening the way that it’s supposed to happen. We go from a we society to a me society and back to a we society. That’s the law of rhythm. So we learn how to be part of a community and contribute to it, but then we turn inward and become centrally focused because that helps us with our growth. Then we realize that, okay, I’m thinking too much about myself and I’ve gotten myself to a good point where I can help others, so let me go back to thinking about other people.

I just think that’s the law of rhythm. Day follows night. Ebb follows flow. Up follows down. It’s just the way that it goes. And when people are focused on the negativity about it, then that’s all they’ll see. But if you focus on how it can actually be beneficial to us as a society, then you have a different outlook.

That’s very true. So how do you change your mindset? How do you tell people to change their mindset from being negative or from slipping up to getting on the right track?

I personally practice A Course in Miracles. I would say it’s a guide. It’s not like a religion or anything of that. It’s just something that I practice to put things into my life to help me grow.

One of the first things that it says, and this is really deep, is, “Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Therein lies the peace of God.” So if you realize that your problems will come and go, then you can have a good attitude about it. You can be like, well, okay, let’s figure out how to get our way out of this. Or you can focus on the woe-is-me side of it. Accountable versus victim.

I like to try to be accountable for the way that I’m perceiving things. I can’t control things around me. I can only control the way that I react to them. I think that’s where my power lies, and I’m accountable for the way that I’m reacting. Have I gotten upset? Have I gotten pissed off? Have I said things that I wish I hadn’t? Absolutely. I’m 100% human and I still do it to this day. But that’s what makes me human. That’s what makes it a work in progress.

I think that we’re all there, and having that compassion for other people, to love them where they’re at, is that unconditional love that we all seek. There are days that I don’t feel lovable, and I’m very grateful for my support system that they’re there for me. Not everybody has that. So trying to be a light in the world, trying to be an example, if you will, helps other people realize their potential. It’s little baby steps. It’s not necessarily something that we can radically change overnight. But if you focus on being a better person today than you were yesterday, or reacting better today than you did yesterday, that should help.

That makes sense. That’s how I built Dubz. Make today easier than yesterday.

Yeah. And you’ve done an amazing job. Really, we love you and we love your restaurant.

Appreciate it a lot.

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As far as helping others, I know you reach out to many people in the community and you kind of coach them up, you talk them up, you help them get through whatever they’re getting through. What is it about that that makes you want to do it?

So, I guess we’re going to go into the spiritual side of things. I think that there are things that people don’t talk about, unseen senses that we have. We all know about our physical five senses, hearing, seeing, tasting, touching, smelling, but we don’t very well look at our psychic abilities.

So I am claircognizant, which means clear knowing, and clairsentient, which is clear feeling. So I can feel how other people feel without them saying a word, being in their space, talking to them on the phone, just knowing sometimes that something’s going on with somebody in the family or friends and picking up the phone at the right time to be like, “Hey, what’s going on? Everything good?”

There are also clairvoyance, which is what a lot of people think of as the only psychic ability, which is clear seeing, so in your mind’s eye, dreaming, having visions, and then clairaudience, which is clear hearing. So some people, not necessarily the schizophrenic kind of voice, but a voice in your head that tells you like, “Hey, pull into that gas station.” And then when you pull into that gas station, you see a young lady who doesn’t have any shoes and she’s not doing well for herself, and you’re like, “Hey, I have flip-flops. Do you want them?” Because I have 20 pairs of shoes in my closet. Just to know that you are at the right place at the right time.

That’s always how it works. Every time you are always doing everything perfectly, even when you think that you’re not. I’m not sure. I guess what happens is I become a channel for a higher voice, I’ll call it that, to where I can really kind of move my own thoughts and feelings out of the way and interpret verbally what spirit has come through for the other person to help them feel better, change their perception, or just feel like they have somebody that’s there to support them for what they’re going through.

So when and how did you realize you had that capability, or was it just a progressive thing?

Honestly, I think I really had it very young. I had it really young, but then I turned it off because I was made fun of. It’s a typical situation, right? Typical childhood. People bullied me. I was always that little cheerleader, “Oh, good shot,” when somebody would miss, and people would be like, that was not a good shot. And I’d be like, “Oh, well, I’m just trying to encourage them and trying to be a cheerleader really.”

I was never a cheerleader in high school, but that’s just my nature, to lift others up and to be kind. Again, not always, because sometimes the tough girl comes out in me and I’m like, “Nope, I don’t like that.” But yeah, I feel like I knew really young, but I didn’t start to embrace it probably until about 20 years ago. I’m going to tell my age, but I’m 47, so I was in my later 20s realizing that there were things that were different about me, not in a special way, but that I was more tuned into than other people. Talking to people about things and having them seek me out for advice or seek me out when they were going through trouble, and just really leaning into wanting to be a good person for them, wanting to be a good friend to them.

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What do you think? Do you think we’re all here for a purpose, a reason? Do you think we all have our own missions? Do you think we’re all here collectively to help each other, to fix our souls? What are your beliefs?

I’ll put it to you this way. If I were to take a cup and dip it into the ocean, that would still be ocean water, right? We can all agree to that. However, what we look at is that it’s separate now from the ocean. I feel like that’s the same way it is with God, is that we are all God here in these bodies having different experiences to help us evolve as human beings, help our souls evolve.

Because we’re in separate bodies, we don’t realize what I do affects you and what you do affects me. So while I might be over here healing myself, that’s going to affect the collective. That’s going to affect the whole ocean, right? And it doesn’t matter if other people are doing things that maybe aren’t healthy for the whole. They’re still doing things to help us have different perspectives or bring that perspective back.

There again, a saying from A Course in Miracles, or I guess my mentor said, “Two became one for the joy of becoming one again.” In other words, we’re figuring it out. We’re all here figuring it out, that we’re here for a greater purpose to help us as a collective better ourselves, have a more enjoyable experience, and heal things that we’ve done that were quote-unquote bad and wrong.

Maybe I’ve been here multiple times before and did all the bad and wrong, and this time I came back and I was like, “You know what? I’m going to be the healer this time. I’m going to help everybody.” But it’s not me at the end of the day. It’s not Missy the body that’s helping George or Christian or anybody else. It’s Missy embodying the alignment with God to be loving and caring and giving that unconditional hope to people so that they can continue on.

When our time is up, our time is up. Somebody said recently, how do you spend your dash, right? From the time you get here to the time you end. For me, I want to spend giving back. I want to spend doing things for other people and making sure they’re growing, making sure that they know that they’re loved, and making sure that they have the ability to carry that on. The butterfly effect.

I don’t know your mission, right? I don’t know. But I feel like sitting in your restaurant, the way that you have people gathered together, we all gather around food. I’m Middle Eastern. You’re Middle Eastern. You’re more Middle Eastern than I am. But we gather around food. Food is love in my house, right? So what you’re creating is a space for people to join and gather and be with one another and create laughter and love and memories. What a phenomenal experience to have.

Do you have tough days? Do you have workers that don’t show up? Of course. But the way that you carry yourself through those things, that’s what’s going to help you have a better experience here on Earth. If nothing unreal exists, then the problems that we have are kind of all made up in our head.

One hundred percent.

If we can get past that and think, is there a different way to see this? Can I choose again the way that I’m looking at this? Then we’ll have the ability to heal faster, I think.

Yeah, I agree.

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I feel like the more unfazed you become in the business world, the better you’ll be.

Yeah, even if you fail for a long time.

Yeah.

Again, that’s failure, right? Failure is inevitable. And when you become fearless in the face of failure, then it doesn’t exist. It doesn’t matter. Today we might have a good day. We might make lots of money. Tomorrow we might lose. But that’s again the law of rhythm. That’s the ebb and flow.

As far as reincarnation, do you believe in reincarnation? Do you think we’ve lived multiple lives on this earth?

Absolutely. So the way that I look at healing, right, and again I’ve had mentors to help me think about these things and consider if it’s a fit for me. Some people’s fit might be Christianity or Buddhism. This is a fit for me.

But the way that I believe is that if we have something that triggers us, we are currently doing it in this lifetime. Like if you lied to me and I’m like, “Oh, I’m so mad at him,” it’s because I’m currently doing it, I have done it previously in this life and still have guilt and shame for it, or I’ve done it in a concurrent life. So don’t think time, right? I was here and then I was back with source and then I’m here again. Concurrent life. It’s all happening all at once to me.

So my belief is that, again, you’re me and I’m you. So if I can heal lying being a trigger for me, I can give it forth to God through forgiveness, right? If I can give it forth to God, then I’m helping you heal any guilt and shame you might feel from lying. Does that make sense?

Yeah, that makes sense.

Yeah.

So you think we live multiple lives, is what you’re saying?

Yeah. Until the karmic energy is no more, that we don’t have to come back to clean it up.

And then what happens?

Then we go back to being source energy and helping in other ways however we can.

In this world, I don’t know, you know what I mean? I don’t know what happens after this. I’ve never had a near-death experience, thank God, or anything of that nature. But I do believe that we rejoin and we’re here to help in other ways. Love is love, right? And I know you’ve heard that saying, but I believe that’s what source energy is.

That’s why babies are so happy all the time, because they were there most recently than what we are. So they’re closer to God than I’ll be in this lifetime because I’m older than you. Babies always have it figured out until they’re domesticated. Once they’re domesticated, they believe what their parents have taught them to believe. Now, my parents taught me what their parents taught them, etc., etc., down the line. But I can’t blame them. They didn’t know what they know, right? Until you know, as my mother says. And once you figure it out, you can do better because you know better.

That makes sense.

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00:26:21

So how are you going to change the topic a little bit? How do you get people to be more motivated?

How do I get people to be more motivated?

We’re giving you the questions. She wanted questions.

Oh, okay.

How do you inspire people to be better? What is it that people want to hear, see, or do that you can really get their full potential out of them?

I just want them to believe in themselves no matter where they’re at.

How do you make that happen?

It’s an inside job, George. I’ve always said that if I’m going to the gym and I’m working out both muscles, I’m going to be pretty symmetrical. But if I’m working out one muscle, this one’s going to atrophy, right? So if I’m working out the healthy muscle that’s telling me I’m smart and I’m beautiful and I’m successful and I can’t fail, then that muscle is going to be pretty big and you’re going to evolve forward into that. But if you’re working out the one that’s telling you you aren’t good enough and you can’t do things and you’re not enough, then you’re going to have that muscle being the biggest, right? Where your focus goes, your energy flows.

So they have to realize that there’s a little voice inside your head. There’s a book by Michael Singer, and it’s called The Untethered Soul, and he says in this book, and this was a turning point for me, imagine the voice in your head was an external person and you had to hang out with that person all the time. How long would you hang out with them if it was actually a physical body? And I was like, she’s got to go. She has got to go, because she was mean to me and she made me feel bad about myself and I didn’t like her.

So that right there was like, wait, if I wouldn’t hang out with somebody physically who does that, why would I let myself believe that that’s what I should believe because that’s me and my thinking? It’s not me, though. The me who is observing the thinking is me. And so having the ability to kind of make that quick switch for myself was really an epiphany moment where I could go, “Oh, I understand. I’m not supposed to talk to myself like that because I’m out of alignment. God doesn’t think those things. God is love always.” So if I feel like I’m unpretty or unsuccessful or not good enough, that makes me feel bad. And that’s not in alignment with what God says. And that’s how I know I’m in alignment with what God says, because I feel better.

So do you believe that anxiety and depression and all that is because we’re out of alignment?

Absolutely. I think that that’s a huge factor in it. Again, there are traumas that people go through that can keep them in that headspace. I went through depression. I almost took my life multiple times. I think that it’s a natural thing to happen for people to get into that state of mind. It’s not natural to stay there. We all have depressive states. We all have states where we’re not feeling good about ourselves or a bad day or an off day. But if you let that bad day become a bad month, become a bad six months, become a bad couple of years, then you’re not doing anything to try to make a change.

Then that’s when I’m looking at you thinking that you’re in a victim mentality. Like, oh well, this happened, I can’t. Well, this happened, I can’t. Well, you’re putting those limitations on yourself, right? And we don’t want limitations. If this is what we know, and this is what we think we know, there are so many unlimited possibilities in that space of what we don’t know that we don’t know. And if you’re open to that, then you have the ability to change things a lot faster.

When I see someone be successful, like yourself, I realize that I have that success available to me as well.

That’s how I see it too.

Yeah.

I feel like a lot of people in this life get jealous of success, and I just feel like that’s a really negative mindset.

Sure.

Because I’m a firm believer that if you put in the work, you can accomplish anything you want, you know?

So, it’s really funny. We’re part of BNI, and one of the things, there’s a podcast that I listen to and it was called Co-opetition, and it’s something I’ve always done anyway naturally, but it makes it even better because again it goes back to that theory of you have to want for your brother what you want for yourself, right?

If I want to be successful, I need to want success for you. And so for me, I have a pressure cleaning company. There’s not every job that I have that I want to do, and there are jobs that some other pressure cleaners locally can do better. So I will call them and give them those jobs. Now, am I jealous or upset if they get a job and I was bidding the same job? Absolutely not. Because again, I’m under the firm belief that what’s meant for me will always be mine and what’s meant for somebody else will never be mine.

One hundred percent. I feel like it’s all about manifestation and energy as well.

Yeah.

And as long as—

You have to believe it first.

As long as you keep a positive mindset, it’s just like what you were saying earlier, and it’s like that Bruce Lee saying, when you talk to yourself, no matter if it’s a joke, your body doesn’t understand jokes. I don’t know exactly word for word, but you know what I’m saying.

No. Well, the universe doesn’t hear no. It doesn’t hear I don’t want. It hears want, want, want. So if you’re like abundance and love and riches and fun and all those kinds of good things, then it’s going, “Oh yeah, let’s give you more of that.” But if it hears, “I’m stupid and I’m not capable,” then you’re always going to be finding ways to be right about those things. That’s the reticular activating system.

The other thing is, something that’s coming through to share is a saying. It’s called tabula rasa, which means clean slate. So do you bring yesterday’s troubles into today? Do you bring yesterday’s or an hour ago’s troubles into this moment? And are you carrying all that weight with you all the time?

I used to.

Yeah.

But I mean, I’m not perfect at it, but the older I get and the more experience, I figure it out. And dude, you’re so young. In a way, I’m kind of jealous. I wish I had figured it out at your age, what you know, because by the time you’re my age, you’re going to be on fire.

I hope so. Been having a stressful 20s.

Get the stress out of the way now. We’ll peak later, I promise. But yeah, I believe that too. I feel like the more we help, the more we get.

Yeah.

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My mom’s been trying to get in my head lately about buying a fixer home. She’s like, “You should do it with your brother.” I was like, “Well, if I do it with my brother, he’s not going to help me fix the home. He works like 80 hours a week.” She’s like, “You give what you get. So if you give to this, you’re going to get back what you gave, so just do it.” So, have you ever had a situation where you’re like, I really want to help that person, so I’m going to do it for them?

Yeah. All the time.

So, I was that way as well. I’m a fixer, right? I love to fix other people’s problems, but I realized you can’t do that. It’s like leading a horse to water. You can’t make it drink. Or teaching a man to fish, he’s going to have fish for his whole life, right?

So again, another belief that I hold is that I believe I have a higher power and intuition that leads me, and that goes back to those psychic abilities, and we all have the availability to all of them, okay? But some of us are stronger, some of us are more in alignment and understand that we have those capabilities. It’s not something that’s widely expressed or talked about.

But if I fix for you what you can do for yourself, or what your path might change because I’ve done something that I think is right for you, even if it’s not right for you, that means that I don’t believe you have a higher power because I have to do it for you. Does that make sense?

No. Elaborate a little bit on that.

So again, go back to stopping at the gas station because spirit told me to do that, to give somebody shoes, to be at the right place at the right time. But if I’m trying to tell you what to do, then that’s saying that I don’t trust that you have that intuition for yourself, because I’m trying to control what you’re doing versus letting you hear your intuition and do what’s natural for you.

Yeah.

Does that make sense?

Yeah.

And so that was something that I feel like my mother also taught me. Like, you’ve got to take the bull by the horns and you’ve got to make sure everybody’s doing everything. I love it because it made me, as you said, a boss ass woman, right? But at the same time, then I was doing things for people and instead of them knowing that they could do them for themselves, they would rely on me to do it, to fix their problem.

So in order to empower them, right, I have to understand that they have their own higher power just like I have my own higher power. And if I’m trying to do everything for them, then it’s not going to work. They’re not going to learn.

So, how do you let go? Because sometimes I hold that energy on my shoulders a lot.

Yeah.

And it brings me down.

Yeah. Be inspired, right? And inspired actually is from the root in spirit. So be in spirit. Be inspired to help when it’s time to help. If you’re not inspired to help, you don’t need to be anybody’s hero. And so I would say that that’s probably how I switch things, like knowing it was right for me to help or feeling the obligation to help has changed tremendously.

Okay, that makes sense.

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All right, we’re going to wrap this up. Is there anything else you want to tell the people? Any inspirational quotes? Anything you want to let them know about yourself? Anything you want to leave off with?

You know, I’m going to use my youngest son’s quote. Love is always an option. And that was something he came up with all by himself. I have it tattooed on my body because he always sees the best in people. Believe that in yourself. Believe that for others. And I think that we could actually make a difference in the world by seeing those things versus creating more division.

All right.

Yeah.

That sounds good. And for all you watching, if you guys liked this video, please like, comment, and subscribe. We appreciate you guys. We’ll see you on Episode 20 next week. Thank you.